The Sabrina Zohar Show

Why do you keep repeating the same relationship patterns even when you know better? In this episode, Sabrina explains why knowing your patterns isn’t the same as breaking them, and gives you a practical plan for changing them. She covers how to catch yourself falling into old habits while it’s happening, how to calm your nervous system with “sensation without explanation” and the 90-second emotion rule, and how to stop self-abandoning in relationships that keep ending at the same point. She also answers listener questions on anxious attachment, dating avoidant partners, setting boundaries you actually keep, and how to believe that healthy, secure love really exists.

Plus, Sabrina explains how dopamine loops from social media and dating apps keep you stuck, how to cut back on screen time a little at a time without burning out, and why healthy love is less complicated than you think. She also shares her “rename the contact” tool to help you stop texting the people who keep pulling you back. If you’re ready to break toxic patterns, heal your attachment style, and build relationships that last, this one’s for you.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why Patterns Are So Hard to Break

03:17 How to Sit With Uncomfortable Emotions

07:21 Do Good Partners Actually Exist?

11:03 Healthy Love Starts With You

14:23 You Don’t Need to Change to Be Loved

18:24 How to Stop Self Abandoning

22:19 Should You Take a Social Media Break?

26:23 How to Stop Reaching for Your Phone

30:16 The Stages of Breaking Patterns

34:25 Rename the Contact Tool to Move On

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Why do we stay quiet when something hurts? In this episode I get honest about people pleasing, fear of rejection, and the shame that kept me saying yes when I meant no, in dating, friendships, family, and at work. I open up about my childhood, my dad disowning me after I set a boundary, and what speaking up has cost me. We also get into the neuroscience of rejection and why it hurts like physical pain, the difference between shame, guilt, and regret, and why blame is a defense against shame.

I also answer your questions on forgiving yourself after a breakup or cheating, letting go of self-blame, and believing you’re “too much.” Then I share my tool of the week, the “actually” sentence, a simple daily practice to stop fawning, set healthy boundaries, and build self-worth one true sentence at a time. If you’ve ever shrunk yourself to keep someone in your life, this episode is for you.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why You Stay Quiet in Relationships

03:24 How to Say No Without Guilt

06:44 Where Shame Comes From

10:27 Healing Your Inner Child

13:26 The Cost of Speaking Up

17:40 Feeling Like You’re Too Much

20:35 Why Blame Is a Defense Against Shame

25:06 Forgiving Yourself After Hurting Someone

28:21 Shame vs Guilt vs Regret

30:27 How to Stop Fawning: The Actually Tool

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Ever wonder why you keep dating the same type of person, people-please everyone around you, or never feel like enough no matter how much you achieve? It could be a father wound. Licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole, author of Father Wound, joins Sabrina to break down how an absent, emotionally unavailable, or abusive father shapes your self-worth, boundaries, attachment style, and relationships, and why calling it “daddy issues” misses the real worthiness wound underneath.

You’ll learn the signs of an unhealed father wound (perfectionism, overgiving, hypervigilance, codependency, chasing avoidant partners and friends), how repetition compulsion keeps you stuck in the same painful relationship patterns, the role a mother plays in co-wounding, and 3 questions to tell when you’re reacting from childhood trauma instead of your adult self. Plus, real steps for healing the father wound, grieving the dad you didn’t get, and finally feeling worth protecting.

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Chapters:

00:00 What Is a Father Wound?

04:48 Signs of an Unhealed Father Wound

10:39 How to Heal a Father Wound

16:37 Mother Wound and Co-Wounding

21:22 Overachieving to Prove Your Worth

26:29 Father Wound in Friendships and Dating

32:31 How Transference Shows Up in Your Life

37:39 Fear of Becoming Your Parent

42:57 Why Avoidants Deserve Empathy

48:09 Feeling Too Much and Not Enough

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Love Is Blind UK star ⁠Tom Stroud⁠ sets the record straight on his reality TV villain edit, including why Netflix made him reshoot the altar scene. He shares how therapy after the show led him to build ⁠Shoulder to Shoulder⁠, a men’s community tackling the male loneliness epidemic, and he and Sabrina get honest about men’s mental health, why so many men avoid therapy, and why shaming men for their feelings only pushes them further away.Tom also opens up about his father wound, losing his dad before they could reconcile, and what his relationship has taught him about conflict, anger, and emotional safety. Plus: why men need male friendships, red flags that look like green flags, scheduling sex in a busy relationship, and what women and men need to understand about each other.Come see me on tour! ⁠https://sabrinazohar.com/tour⁠Order Sabrina's book,⁠⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠⁠If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠Product of the week! ⁠https://amzn.to/4v1eHW⁠jGet Ad free ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠ Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠ Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠⁠ Don't forget to follow ⁠⁠⁠Sabrina⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram and ⁠⁠⁠Sabrina ⁠⁠⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠⁠⁠YOUTUBE!⁠⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Love Is Blind UK Altar Truth

05:28 Reality TV Hate and Mental Health

11:08 Equal Partnership in Relationships

16:00 Fear of Rejection and People Pleasing

21:09 Why Men Won’t Go to Therapy

27:26 Male Loneliness Epidemic Explained

34:22 Father Wound and Unspoken Regret

39:15 Why Men Hide Their Emotions

43:19 How to Make Men Feel Emotionally Safe

48:59 Red Flags That Look Like Green Flags

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Why do you keep checking if they watched your story, waiting for your ex to text, or feeling bored the moment someone is actually good to you? In this science-heavy episode, Sabrina breaks down the neuroscience of attachment and repeating relationship patterns: why your brain gets hooked on hot and cold people like a slot machine, why healthy relationships can feel boring, why you can’t get over your ex, and why you self-sabotage the moment you get what you wanted.

Sabrina shares her own story of learning to receive secure love, plus what actually helps you break the cycle after a breakup, during no contact, or in a relationship where you keep having the same fight. You’ll also get a simple 90-second nervous system check-in to start catching your anxious attachment patterns before you act on them, so you can stop chasing the people who give you the least.

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Order Sabrina's book,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns

03:02 Why Healthy Relationships Feel Boring

05:45 Why the Wrong Person Feels Like the One

08:55 Why You Keep Waiting for Your Ex to Text

11:07 Why You Self-Sabotage Good Relationships

14:50 Why You Stay When Your Needs Aren’t Met

17:53 Why You Can’t Stop Stalking Your Ex

20:46 How to Break Anxious Attachment Patterns

23:41 Why You Keep Getting Ghosted

26:37 90-Second Nervous System Check-In

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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