Finding My Big Girl pants

This episode is a year-end brain dump about everything that’s been sitting heavy—and everything that suddenly feels clear. We talk Christmas, being alone without being lonely, health, hormones, work, love, friendship, aging parents, and why none of the things we stress about will matter as much as we think. A reminder to zoom out, refocus, and choose what truly matters.

This one is for every woman who has hit December (again) thinking, “What the fuck am I doing with my life?”In this episode of Finding My Big Girl Pants, we talk about that gut-punch feeling of looking back at the past year and realizing you’re still in the job that’s killing you, still in the body you don’t feel at home in, still in the relationship you’ve outgrown… and still telling yourself, “Next year will be different.”This is your tough-love New Year’s hug and slap in one. 

In this episode we dive deep into the messy truth about relationships: why marriage is statistically a disaster, why so many couples quietly fall apart, why intimacy matters more than most of us admit, and why being present with your partner is the sexiest thing you can bring into the bedroom. Inspired by James Sexton’s brutally honest book, we’re talking effort, spark, desire, confidence, the famous “man flowers” (aka blowjobs), and how to keep connection alive.

This week’s episode is brought to you by Mercury-in-retrograde-level chaos, bad sleep, and one very life-changing bob. I talk about how cutting my hair didn’t just change my face, it changed my identity, my confidence, and the way I move through the world when I’m no longer performing for the male gaze. We go into why so many of our choices – careers, bodies, hair, even sex – quietly orbit around being “chosen,” and what happens when you flip the script and start asking one simple question instead: Do I actually like this? If you’re in your 20s, 30s or 40s drowning in shitty jobs, shitty relationships, body pressure and auditioning for love, this is your reminder that the real prize at the end of the tunnel is you.

You send me questions and I answered. We cover how I ended up back in Michigan, how to keep your sanity after leaving corporate, what to do with your money when math gives you hives, and why being single in your 30s is not a death sentence. It’s like a 30-minute voice memo to every woman in my inbox.