Sex With Emily

Blood flow might not sound sexy, but it’s the fuel behind satisfying sex.

In this live episode from the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas, I sit down with certified nurse practitioner and ⁠Medical Director at GAINSWave, Chrislyn Chaloupka, to discuss how GAINSWave’s non-invasive regenerative therapy is reshaping sexual wellness by addressing root causes rather than simply masking symptoms.

We dive into why your body might not be responding the way it used to, from erections that fade under pressure to that frustrating gap between wanting sex and your body just not cooperating.

Chrislyn breaks down how this painless 15-minute treatment works (that I even tried myself), and we get real about everything from porn-induced desensitization to why erectile challenges can actually be your heart trying to tell you something important.

Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube! 

What you'll learn:

 • Why "just relax and use more lube" isn't solving your arousal problems—and what actually will

 • How shockwave therapy can help with everything from weak orgasms to stress urinary incontinence (yes, the sneeze-and-pee situation)

 • The psychological factors that can make even the best physical treatments fail until you address the deeper story

This Episode is sponsored by Gainswave. Go to gainswave.com and find a provider near you to regain your freedom and pleasure in the bedroom.This episode was recorded live at the A4M Longevity Conference in Las Vegas 2025. 

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• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:07 - What Is A4M & Why Emily Was There

3:16 - Meet Guest Chrysen Chalupka: Nurse Practitioner & Regenerative Medicine Expert

12:17 - Regenerative Medicine Explained: Treating Root Causes, Not Symptoms

13:34 - What Is Shockwave Therapy & How Does It Actually Work

15:28 - The GainsWave Treatment: What It Feels Like (Emily's Experience)

17:03 - Who Benefits Most: Women, Pain, Dryness & Orgasm Issues

23:28 - Shockwave for Men: Erections, Blood Flow & Hidden Heart Health Warnings

27:09 - The Psychology of Sexual Dysfunction: When It's Not Just Physical

28:52 - Porn, Masturbation & Desensitization: The Conversation Nobody's Having

32:57 - Beyond Sexual Health: Treating Joints, Injuries & Chronic Pain with Shockwave

35:30 - How to Find a GainsWave Provider Near You
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Sexting sounds simple until you're actually staring at your phone, cursor blinking, wondering if what you're about to send is hot or just... weird. In this episode, I'm giving you the full breakdown on how to text dirty with confidence—because good sexting is really just foreplay with a keyboard.

I'm answering your questions about everything from how to build tension with something as small as three dots, to what to do when your partner wants to sext around the clock but you're just not feeling it. Plus, I'm sharing some of the hottest sexts the Sex With Emily community has ever received (you asked, you delivered, and wow).

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • The "past and future" technique that makes writing a sext way less intimidating—and way more effective

 • What to say when your long-distance partner's sexting pace doesn't match yours (hint: you're allowed to set your own rhythm)

 • How sexting can actually help you communicate desires that feel too awkward to say face-to-face

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:06 - The "past and future" rule for writing sexts

4:43 - How to use the three dots to build tension

5:34 - Nude photo tips: angles, lighting & confidence

7:35 - Protecting your nudes on Apple & Google

8:41 - The hottest sexts you've sent (community submissions)

10:18 - How to find your dirty talk voice

12:48 - Flirting with a coworker over Zoom & Slack

15:04 - Keeping sexts private when kids use your devices

16:08 - When your partner's masturbation habits change

19:16 - Mismatched sexting energy in long distance

22:35 - Rebuilding trust after infidelity
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Whether you're questioning who you're attracted to or wondering why someone incredible on paper leaves you feeling nothing below the waist, you're not alone. In this episode, I unpack the messy, confusing space between wanting someone and wanting to build a life with them—and why those two things don't always line up.

From a woman who's always identified as straight but can't stop fantasizing about women, to a listener who's been getting nothing but one-arm hugs after six dates, I get into the questions most people are too afraid to ask out loud. I also share what the science actually says about attraction—including why your post-gym crush might not be as real as it feels, and what your birth control could be doing to your "type."

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why putting a label on your sexuality might be the last thing you need to do right now—and what to try instead

 • The conversation that can save you months (or years) of wondering where you stand with someone who won't make a move

 • What to do when you and your partner are both waiting for the other person to take control in bed

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• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Head to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply today!

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction 

1:56 - The science of sexual attraction 

5:01 - You can want someone without wanting to date them 

6:12 - Surprising facts about who you're attracted to (and why) 

9:19 - "Am I bisexual or do I just think women are hot?" 

10:50 - The one-arm hug situation 

15:25 - When your partner's meds killed your sex life 

20:40 - 19 years married and ready to give up 

25:31 - How to rekindle the spark after years together
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A Pressure-Free Reframe on Desire, Connection, and Sex

This isn't your typical Valentine's Day episode. I'm skipping the performance pressure and Pinterest-perfect expectations to focus on what actually matters: real connection. Drawing from thousands of your survey responses—and two decades of hearing the same struggles around desire mismatch, stress, and intimacy—I built this Valentine's guide around your actual pain points, not trending hashtags.

From why sensory play beats a five-star reservation to how sleep might be the sexiest gift you can give yourself, I break down the science and stories behind lasting desire.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why prioritizing rest is actually foreplay—and how just one extra hour of sleep can increase desire by 14%

 • How to use your senses (not grand gestures) to create genuine intimacy and take the guesswork out of date night

 • The difference between romance as performance and connection your body actually feels—and why that distinction changes everything

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More Dr. Emily: 

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• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:03 - Why Connection Beats Romance Every Time

3:28 - Experience Gifts That Actually Build Intimacy

5:17 - Dating Advice: Be the Person You Want to Find

7:28 - Desire Doesn't Magically Appear—It's Created

9:35 - Foreplay Starts Way Before Touch

12:11 - Your Nervous System Is Your Sex Organ

16:41 - Self-Pleasure Is a Relational Skill

20:50 - When Your Libidos Don't Match

26:11 - Building Your Ideal Date Night Using Your Senses

29:52 - Why Sleep Is the Sexiest Gift You Can Give
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Whether you've been with your partner for ten months or ten years, knowing what you actually want in bed is harder than it sounds—especially if you never got the chance to explore. In this episode, Dr. Emily takes listener calls about the real challenges that keep couples stuck: shame around masturbation, mismatched experience levels, and the fear that fading passion means something's broken.

From a wife who's never had a partner ask what she wants to a husband hiding his solo sessions in the basement, Emily breaks down why sexual self-discovery isn't selfish—it's essential. She also tackles what to do when your partner wants to swing but you're not sure, and why taking penetration off the table might be the fastest way to bring the heat back.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why being a skilled lover has nothing to do with how many people you've slept with—and everything to do with curiosity and communication

• How to take the lead in bed without becoming a completely different person (even if you've always been submissive)

• The "hell yes or hell no" rule for navigating swinging, threesomes, and any sexual experience that makes you feel vulnerable

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:33 - McKenzie: Husband complains about sex life to others

4:36 - Why partner count doesn't determine sexual skill

6:14 - How to discover what you actually want in bed

9:37 - Experience is not a numbers game

10:43 - Dan: Feeling guilty about masturbating while married

13:06 - Why masturbation shame hurts relationships

15:41 - Sarah: Giving her husband a prostate orgasm for his 50th

19:04 - Switching from submissive to dominant in bed

23:02 - Alex: Girlfriend wants to try soft swapping

25:17 - Hannah: Taking sex off the table to reconnect

30:03 - Building intimacy without rushing to penetration
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