You may have been dating and anxious attached and they seem put together. They are not the needy and clingy ones you heard about. They don't remind you of your ex who was needy and clingy. You might even think you're being tricked. Are they manipulating you? Chances are you have bummed into a not so rare gem. There are emotionally mature anxious attached gems that can behave in very secure ways and that is healthy for a long- term relationship. However, you don't want to sabotage these relationships by testing them too much because these are the ones that won't stick around and beg like your emotionally immature ex probably did - and you don't want to risk that. If you're anxiously attached, this may trigger you or help you to grow if you're ready for that. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
What To Do When Male Partner Has Many Female Followers
2026-05-06 | 1 h 4 min.
This is an episode recorded for my instagram Wednesday live. These are the questions I answered for my followers there👇👇👇
My avoidant treats me like he’s a bf even we are not longer together for months. We have been on and off but he always treats me like his bf when we are together Does avoidant experiences physical symptoms when their relationships feel too much? What do you think of the opinion that avoidants generally cheat (emotional/phyical/leave doors open, etc) Why do DA cheat? How to deal with silent treatment from a fa partner? Husband is avoidant, he gets extreme stressed about the future and shuts down for months? My boyfriend has mostly female followers on instagram. It triggers my anxiety. What should I do? Are avoidants who don’t do the work usually emotionally immature? Is it okay to tell an ex you know would need therapy/ counselling to let them know? I have been in no contact with someone for 10 weeks. He then asked to meet then went missing again. Checking he sill had access. Can avoidant heal/break patterns without therapy? I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
Client Shares Healing His Anxious Attachment
2026-04-27 | 1 h 1 min.
Healing an anxious attachment isn't easy but it is possible. My client agreed to sit down and share his journey - what he went through as an anxious attached person, what he has learned and how he continues to grow and feel empowered in his relationships. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
What It's Like to be A Fearful Avoidant
2026-03-31 | 1 h 18 min.
My client decided to share what it's like for her to be a fearful avoidant attached person. We often think that only men are avoidant attached but what happens when it's a woman. Client S shares how she thinks and feels when she gets overwhelmed and what it looks like to heal. She talks about what she is going through as she manages her emotions during a breakup and what she would do differently if/when she gets back with her partner. Join us for this one plus hour chat . I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
How Secure Attached Breakup with Avoidant
2026-03-15 | 26 min.
Secure attached people don't beg or chase when an avoidant wants to breakup. They also know when to call it quits...and in this episode - that is what we are discussing. We will discuss... - a secure attached timeline to a deciding a breakup, - how they communicate breaking up - what they heal during breakup - how they respond when avoidant circles back 🚶🏻♂️➡️Follow me on instagram for more insights into attachment styles. 🔁 Share with someone who needs to hear this. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
Why you keep picking the same fights. Why you feel so needy or so smothered. Let's talk about why your relationships play out the way they do, and what you can actually do about it.I’m your host, Annalisa Bahadur. I have a psychology degree, I’m a coach, and most importantly, I’ve been in the trenches. I used to have major anxious attachment. I know what it's like to feel that constant anxiety, to need reassurance, to feel like the relationship is always on the brink of collapse.But I did the work to move toward secure. And I’m now almost five years into a happy, stable relationship with a recovering avoidant. I’m not talking theory from a textbook. I’m talking about what actually worked for me and my clients.This podcast is about attachment theory, stripped down to the basics. No fluff, no fancy language. Just straight talk about how your early wiring affects your adult relationships.In each episode, we break down the four attachment styles - Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant. We'll look at how they show up in your dating life, your friendships, and even at work. You'll hear real stories and get practical steps you can use right now.We focus on two main tools: empathy and boundaries.Empathy to understand why you and the people you love act the way they do.Boundaries to protect your own energy and stop cycles of drama and hurt.This isn't about blaming your parents or your exes. It's about giving you a roadmap to better relationships. You'll learn how to identify your patterns, communicate what you really need, and build connections that feel solid, not stressful.If you're tired of the same old problems and you're ready for real change, you're in the right place.Bonus- every Thursday you'll have a chance to listen in on real people as they share their struggles as I coach them through their challenges. Each individual has agreed to have these session recorded using a pseudonym, and aired for your benefit.
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