Why We Numb: Self-Sabotage, Coping Strategies, and "Bad" Habits
Do you find yourself using things to cope like doom scrolling, eating late at night, or drinking in excess? If so, you’re not alone. This episode unpacks the science behind why we numb and engage in “bad” habits. Whether it’s excessive social media, food, sex, alcohol, or work, these are all intelligent survival responses to unresolved trauma or pain.You’ll learn how to tell the difference between coping strategies and regulating resources, why you can’t just “stop” addictive behaviors, and the steps to begin bringing regulation to your nervous system. Sarah also shares her personal journey of healing from OCD, over-eating, and workaholism, proving that true freedom comes from befriending — not battling — your nervous system and protective parts.Episode Highlights[00:00] The truth about coping strategies, and why we all use them[02:11] The role trauma plays in our need to numb[03:12] Why shame perpetuates the coping cycle[05:27] How society normalizes certain numbing behaviors[09:29] You can’t just “stop” a coping behavior[10:52] Coping strategies from a Parts Work lens[15:54] Why battling your protective parts never works[21:04] How to replace coping with regulating resources[24:48] Question 1 - Why quitting smoking can feel worse before it feels better[30:24] Question 2 - Why does my addiction cause more dysregulation?[43:28] Question 3 - Am I using coffee to regulate or cope?RSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training:Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a free, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience.Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time):YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-nsskSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-nsskConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comFree Quiz:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yms-yt-quizSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quizSubmit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“You can’t battle a protector. They will always win because they love your vulnerable part too much to stop.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:14:14]“Forward doesn’t always look like forward in healing. Sometimes it looks like finally facing what’s been waiting to be held.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:29:47]
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Understanding Internal Confusion & Building Self-Trust: Is this Me or a Part of Me?
In this episode, Sarah breaks down the science of Parts Work and how trauma shapes the different “selves” we embody. You’ll learn why these parts develop, how to begin differentiating between the truth of a part and the truth of your adult self, and the steps necessary to finally resolve old wounds. This episode will empower you to find clarity within, build trust with your younger parts, and come home to the authentic you you’ve always been.Episode Highlights:[01:19 ] Why we feel like different versions of ourselves in different settings[03:40] What “Parts Work” means and how parts develop[06:00] How your nervous system reverts to old protective patterns[09:50] The difference between vulnerable and protective parts[11:10] Examples of protectors: achiever, fawner, caretaker, perfectionist[16:35] Somatic exercise: embodying your adult self[20:30] Recognizing truths from adult self vs. your parts[23:40] How romantic relationships trigger childhood parts[26:30] Why protectors often sabotage love and purpose[30:00] The beauty of becoming your own “internal archeologist”[33:30] How to identify your truth and stop oscillating between versions of self[40:00] The importance of marinating in your truth[43:012] Q&A - How can I learn to trust myself and know my truth?[49:157] Q&A - How do I overcoming abuse and self doubt?[55:501] Q&A - How can I know what is the “real me” and what is the traumatized me?[1:00:008] Q&A - How can I create deep and genuine conversations?Join the 3-day Expansion Experience:Ready to step into a bigger life? If you’re feeling stuck in any area of your life, the key to stepping toward your desires is learning how to work with your nervous system (rather than against it). Sarah is going to show you how to do exactly that inside her 3-day live experience for only $37.Click below to join the first call on October 27 (replays available for a limited time):https://bit.ly/yms-sp-eeDownload Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.Click the link below to download the workbook: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbookConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comSubmit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“Anything you think or feel at any given moment is the truth to a part of you, it just might not be the truth to your adult self.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:40:40]“We end up living lives that our protective parts decided are safe for us, not the lives that are actually meant for us.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:47:21]“The life you are here to live is not meant to feel comfortable. It will stretch you, grow you, and invite you into healing.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:48:26]
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The Path to Regulation: How to Find Consistent Presence, Joy, and Aliveness
Your nervous system creates your entire experience. Everything from your thoughts and feelings to your behaviors and perception of self, others, and the world around you are all determined by what’s happening in this self-protective system. In this episode, Sarah will guide you through the fundamentals of nervous system regulation and equip you with tangible somatic tools to help you gain control over your experience.Many traditional models of healing focus only on treating the “symptoms” — like anxiety, depression, stress, fear, burnout, or panic — rather than addressing the root cause. But much of our pain and stuckness is actually a result of unresolved trauma or chronic dysregulation. When you learn how to befriend your nervous system and gently walk it toward safety, it’s possible to feel better, move through the world with more ease, and step toward all that you desire. Episode Highlights:[00:25] Nervous system regulation is the foundation of all healing[02:00] Understanding your Autonomic Nervous System[07:44] What makes regulation so powerful and freeing[10:30] The symptoms of dysregulation[24:28] How we can regulate our nervous systems[29:04] What to expect as you come into regulation[34:35] Question 1: How to resolve anxiety through nervous system regulation[39:37] Question 2: The “expand and contract” experience of healing[42:25] Question 3: Why you might “freeze” or have a startle response[46:33] Question 4: Staying regulated in difficult work environments Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Build a toolbox for regulation inside Nervous System Essentials:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, is packed with science-backed tools to help regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease on a daily basis.Click below to join:bit.ly/sp-nse Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast
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The Relationship Between Your Nervous System & Food: How Dysregulation Shapes Our Eating Patterns
So many of us use food as a strategy to numb, disconnect from our emotions, or even as a companion. So how do we heal this unhealthy relationship with food? Today on You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down how unresolved trauma and a dysregulated nervous system can impact the way you eat, your biological functions, and your overall sense of well-being.You’ll learn why you might have developed a difficult relationship with food, the role diets or restriction play in maintaining control, how intuitive eating can be inhibited by trauma, and more. If you’re ready to reconnect with your body and find more ease around eating, this episode will give you tangible science-backed tools to help you to transform your relationship to food and with yourself. [00:24] Today’s topic: how to have a healthy relationship with food[01:27] Why we develop unhealthy relationships with food[06:09] Food restriction and how it’s used for control[10:53] How being disembodied affects your food intuition[14:41] What food habits create a dysregulated nervous system[18:31] Fueling regulation and building a healthy relationship with food[35:00] Question 1: How blood sugar spikes affect your nervous system[36:45] Question 2: Combatting emotional eating by reparenting your young parts[41:01] Question 3: Anchoring in your adult self when working with younger parts Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download the workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast
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From Fragmented to Whole: Tools to Tangibly Reparent Your Younger Parts
What if the key to living more fully isn’t “fixing” yourself, but learning to meet every part of you with compassion? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores how reparenting our younger parts helps us move from fragmentation back into wholeness. She explains the role of vulnerable parts, protective parts, and the adult self, and how trauma can leave those younger parts stuck in the perpetual pain of the past.Sarah shares practical steps for recognizing, differentiating, and building trust with these parts so they no longer run our lives from the shadows. From learning to anchor in your adult self, to showing up consistently for your inner child, to offering both softness and fierce protection, she outlines a tangible process of reparenting that paves the way for more freedom, safety, and authentic self-expression. Episode Highlights:[00:24] The importance of reparenting your younger parts[01:23] How trauma fragments us into vulnerable parts[05:38] The role of protectors in guarding against pain[08:14] Self vs. Self-like parts[11:55] Signs protectors are limiting your life[14:05] Reparenting your parts to end suffering and live fully[17:10] Anchoring in adult you through regulation[20:22] Differentiating Self from younger parts[22:30] Meeting, introducing, and building a relationship with your parts[27:26] Becoming the internal parent and safe home for your parts[31:05] Question 1: What you need to know about the age of your parts[38:12] Question 2: Overcoming resentment and anger after childhood trauma[52:53] Question 3: Why we might struggle with basic self-care Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast
You Make Sense is a manual to understanding your human experience, so that you can navigate the world with freedom, ease, and empowerment. Using the latest neuroscience and trauma research, this podcast will equip you with powerful somatic tools to help you get unstuck and create the life you desire. Sarah Baldwin, SEP, is an expert in trauma resolution, attachment, parts work, and nervous system regulation. But before she was a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trained in Polyvagal interventions, she first came to this work as someone struggling to find relief. It was through her own healing that led her to become a trained professional, now helping thousands of people across her programs, courses, and classes to do the same.
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