The Art of Repair: Moving Through Conflict with Safety and Connection
Do you find conflict overwhelming in your relationships? Fights or moments of disconnection are actually a normal part of any relationship, but many of us were never taught how to navigate these ruptures in a way that facilitates healing. In this episode, Sarah breaks down the rupture and repair process through a multi-faceted approach, incorporating Polyvagal Theory, Parts Work, and Attachment Theory.You’ll learn how to recognize when you're being driven by younger parts, the importance of pausing to regulate during a rupture, and how to communicate from a place of vulnerability. Whether you're in the thick of a tough dynamic or simply want to deepen your emotional fluency, you'll walk away with tools to foster resilience, build stronger bonds, and create more safety, within yourself and your relationships.Episode Highlights00:00 Intro00:15 Why Ruptures Feel So Hard04:02 Understanding Conflict Through Parts Work13:56 No One Taught Us How to Repair16:48 Steps to Healthy Repair: Pause & Regulate18:06 Steps to Healthy Repair: Anchor in Adult Self25:40 Steps to Healthy Repair: Communicate30:00 “Do We Have to Be Completely Regulated to Repair?”36:16 “Why Do I Over-Focus On Others in Relationships?” 42:27 “How Do I Speak Up Before It’s Too Much?” Join My NEW 8-Week Relationship Course:Ready for more tools to heal your relationships? I co-created a brand new relationship-focused course with my dear friend and colleague, Vienna Pharaon. Secure & Thriving will help you to navigate conflict with ease, address your younger parts, cultivate healthy love, and more.Now open for enrollment through May 29th:bit.ly/sp-securethrivingConnect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastImportant Keywords:Rupture - A rupture is a moment of disconnection, conflict, or emotional break. While a normal part of any relationship, ruptures can also activate old wounding or past traumas that have yet to be resolved.Repair - Repair is the process of reconnecting after a rupture through empathy, communication, and vulnerability. True repair fosters deeper intimacy, trust, and resilience in the relationship.Parts Work – A therapeutic approach (e.g., Internal Family Systems) that explores different parts or aspects of the self and their roles in emotional healing.Protector Parts - Protective parts are internal mechanisms (or versions of ourselves) developed to shield a vulnerable part from pain or harm, often formed during childhood. While they are well-intentioned, they can also keep us stuck in unhelpful patterns until their needs are addressedVulnerable Parts - Younger versions of ourselves that fragment off when we experience trauma, harm, or overwhelm and essentially get “stuck” in that painful experience until we can come to their aid as our adult self.Adult Self - The adult self is our most confident, capable, and able self, which is also sometimes referred to as the “Self” or our “highest self.” We can only fully embody this version of ourselves when closer to regulation.
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