Essential Stepmom Podcast

Blended families don’t come with a rulebook—and most traditional parenting strategies fall apart when you’re navigating two households, high levels of conflict, and kids caught in the middle.
In this episode, Tracy Poizner sits down with Nina Cuellar-Barry, a retired special education teacher and certified Human Design specialist, to explore a powerful framework that helps parents understand their children on a deeper level.
They discuss Nina's upcoming book Parenting with Human Design, and break down how exactly how Human Design can reveal a child’s emotional wiring, decision-making style, and behavioral patterns—giving caring adults powerful tools that actually work in complex family dynamics.
If you’ve ever felt like nothing you try is working… this conversation might be the missing piece.
What Human Design is—and why it goes beyond personality tests
How to understand your child’s emotional patterns (and stop guessing)
Why some kids absorb emotions from others—and what to do about it
The difference between emotional vs. instinctive decision-makers
How to reduce conflict by working with your child’s design, not against it
Why traditional parenting tools often fail in blended families
Parenting gets easier when you stop trying to “fix” behavior…
and start understanding how your child is wired.
Human Design gives you a blueprint—so instead of reacting emotionally or second-guessing yourself, you can respond with clarity and confidence.
And in blended families?
That clarity is everything.
Some kids need time before making decisions—don’t rush them
Others rely on gut instinct and should trust their first response
Emotionally sensitive children may be absorbing energy from both households
Not all behavior is “defiance”—sometimes it’s simply how they’re designed
Examples of phrases to communicate with kids around your own emotions, like:
“I’m feeling this—but I’m handling it”
that help protect emotionally open children from stress
Stepmoms navigating emotional tension in blended families
Parents dealing with confusing or inconsistent child behavior
Families experiencing co-parenting conflict
Anyone looking for deeper, more personalized parenting tools
Parenting with Human Design by Nina Cuellar-Barry – preorder available on Amazon
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If there are any top takeaways from this episode, it would be these:
1. You can arrange your household and family dynamics to make it more conducive to you getting the respect you want.
2. If you're feeling disrespected, you probably need to bite the bullet and look to your partner to fill that need.
3. If you want to fix this problem so that you never feel disrespected again, in any situation, there's only one thing to be done.

If you're ready for high-level support getting solid with #3, you know where to find me - [email protected].

Feelings of worthlessness seemingly arise for stepmoms from the daily realities of life - no established place inside the family dynamic, giving up much of your time and privacy within your home, not being appreciated for many of the things you do for the stepkids and not knowing how to address parenting issues with your partner.

But what if you've unconsiously moved toward situations in life that would act to confirm the way you already feel inside?

In this episode I talk about how the step-parenting journey can be seen as a prompt to upgrade yourself and your self-concept as a human being.

It's time to claim your value, don't wait for anyone else to give it to you.

Book a free call with Tracy and find out if 1:1 coaching or any of her recorded video programs would be a good fit for you!

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Tammy Cohen, brand messaging consultant and founder of the Women Beyond the Table Business Network is the author of Text Messages To My Kids, a book brimming with inspiration for how you (or your partner) can begin, renew or truly uplevel your connection with kids - especially those who don't live with you or who are in a phase of life where they don't seem open to hearing from you. By going where they are - ie., on their phones - you can meet them in familiar territory and get their attention in a new way. In our conversation, I highlight 10 different strategies Tammy used that any dad (or stepmom) can copy or adapt to suit their own family situation and fill a communication gap with love, attention, security and trust.

Text Messages To My Sons: Connecting Deeply In A World of Devices is a BookFest award winner and Next Generation Indie Book Awards finalist. It's a must read for anyone looking to build a deeper connection with their loved ones!

Contact Tammy at:

www.tcbrandconsulting.com

Instagram: @textmessagestomysons

Facebook.com/Textmessagestomysons

Facebook.com@tammyjcohen

www.linkedin.com/in/tammy-cohen-915815143

[email protected]

Dr. Jessica Higgins is the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, check it out here: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/

Dr. Jessica has a free resource available called "Shifting Criticism for Connected Communication" which you can access right here: https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication

Tracy Poizner also offers dad-specific advice for parenting through and around parental alienation and other problems of post-divorce family life via the UnDeletable Dad podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/undeletable-dad/id1592210062

You can find a range of courses and programs at https://undeletabledad.com

Reach out to Tracy with comments or questions any time at [email protected]