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Most parents don't think of themselves as negotiators—but according to negotiation expert Attia Qureshi, we're negotiating dozens of times every day.

Whether you're discussing bedtime, dividing household responsibilities, navigating the mental load, or deciding whose career takes priority, negotiation is happening in the small moments that shape family life.

In this conversation, Hunter Clarke-Fields talks with Attia Qureshi, negotiation and influence expert, former MIT lecturer, adjunct professor at the University of Michigan, and co-author of Never Settle. Together, they explore how parents can approach difficult conversations with more mindfulness, clarity, and collaboration.

Attia explains why many relationship conflicts aren't really about the surface issue, how people-pleasing and avoidance undermine healthy communication, and why one of the most important negotiations you'll ever have is the one happening inside your own mind.

If you've ever struggled with resentment, unequal household labor, or asking for what you need without triggering conflict, this episode offers practical tools you can use immediately.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why negotiation isn't about winning—it's about understanding interests and values• The hidden negotiations couples are having every day• How internal negotiation shapes your relationships• Why avoiding difficult conversations often creates bigger problems later• Practical language for discussing mental load and household responsibilities• How mindfulness helps you stay calm during conflict• Ways to advocate for your needs without becoming adversarial• Communication tools that strengthen connection and cooperation

This episode will help you move from frustration and stalemate toward collaboration, understanding, and stronger family relationships.

ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host
Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1
bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every
Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting
Course and Teacher Training.

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Today's kids are growing up in one of the safest—and most anxiety-filled—times in history. So how do we help them become confident, resilient, and prepared for real life?

In this episode of the Mindful Mama Podcast, Hunter Clarke-Fields sits down with child therapists Sissy Goff and David Thomas, authors of Capable, to explore why capability—not happiness—is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children.

Drawing on more than 30 years of counseling thousands of kids and families, Sissy and David explain why anxiety is rising, how overprotection can unintentionally undermine confidence, and what parents can do instead to help children develop courage, resilience, and emotional strength.

They share practical, age-appropriate ways to encourage independence, help kids face fears, and model the emotional skills children need to thrive. You'll also learn why parents need to examine their own anxiety, how simple family mantras can shape a child's inner voice for life, and why allowing children to struggle in healthy ways builds lasting confidence.

If you've ever wondered whether you're helping too much—or not enough—this conversation offers compassionate, research-informed guidance for raising kids who trust themselves and can handle life's inevitable challenges.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why capability is more important than constantly pursuing happiness

What's driving rising anxiety in children and teens

How parental anxiety and "safetyism" can unintentionally limit kids' growth

Why children need opportunities to experience manageable challenges

Practical capability-building exercises for toddlers, school-age kids, and teens

How to help children face fear without pushing too hard

Why the phrases we repeat become our children's inner voice

The power of family mantras like "We can do hard things"

How to model resilience, emotional regulation, and courage in everyday life

Simple ways to build confidence without adding more pressure to parenting

Rather than protecting children from every challenge, Sissy and David remind us that confidence grows through experience. When kids discover they can handle difficult situations—with loving support—they begin to trust themselves in ways that last a lifetime.

ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host
Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1
bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every
Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting
Course and Teacher Training.

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Hunter Clarke-Fields and Jonathan Caspi explore the intricate dynamics of sibling relationships, discussing how siblings influence each other's identities, the impact of birth order, and the importance of fostering positive interactions. They delve into the surprising findings about sibling differences and practical strategies for parents to nurture healthy sibling bonds while avoiding common pitfalls.

ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training.

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How do we raise emotionally healthy children in a world of social media, AI, constant comparison, and endless digital stimulation?

This week I'm joined by Dr. Shefali, clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and founder of the Conscious Parenting movement, to explore what today's boys and girls truly need from us. Together we discuss why so many boys are emotionally misunderstood, why girls face unprecedented pressure to perform and seek approval, and how parents can move beyond punishment and control toward deeper connection.

We talk about why boys often shut down emotionally, how to respond to anger without shame, the rising perfectionism affecting girls, and why allowing our children to experience boredom may be one of the greatest gifts we can give them.

If you've ever wondered how to parent with more presence—and prepare your children for a rapidly changing world—this conversation is full of practical wisdom and hope.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why boys often express emotions differently than girls

How to respond to anger without punishment or shame

What boys need to stay emotionally connected with their parents

Why perfectionism and anxiety are increasing for girls

How technology is reshaping childhood—and what parents can do

Why boredom, struggle, and "friction" are essential for resilience

How conscious boundaries differ from punishment

The mindset shift that can transform your relationship with your child

We discuss:

Conscious parenting

Emotional intelligence

Raising boys

Raising girls

Emotional regulation

Healthy masculinity

Perfectionism

Parenting in the digital age

Screen time

Connection before correction

Resilience

Boundaries

Mindfulness

Parent-child relationships

About Dr. Shefali

Dr. Shefali is a clinical psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and founder of the Conscious Parenting movement. She has spent decades helping parents move beyond fear, control, and old conditioning to raise children with greater presence, authenticity, and emotional connection.

Resources Mentioned

Dr. Shefali's books Raising Conscious Sons and Raising Conscious Daughters

Dr. Shefali's website

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ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host
Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1
bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every
Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting
Course and Teacher Training.

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Why do Japanese children confidently run errands alone, navigate public transportation, and show remarkable consideration for others from such a young age?

In this episode, Hunter talks with Lisa Katayama, author of The Japanese Way of Parenting, about the cultural values that help children develop independence, emotional regulation, and respect for others. Born and raised in Tokyo and now raising her own family in California, Lisa shares the biggest differences she's noticed between Japanese and American parenting—and how parents everywhere can borrow the best of both worlds.

Together they explore how children learn responsibility not through pressure or perfection, but through trust, consistent expectations, and opportunities to contribute.

You'll Learn:

Why Japanese parenting emphasizes interdependence before independence

The powerful concept of meiwaku and how it teaches children to consider others

Why Japanese playgrounds look so different from American ones

Simple ways to build your child's confidence through everyday responsibility

How routines and community expectations foster cooperation and emotional regulation

What American parents can adopt from Japanese parenting—without losing warmth or individuality

Whether you're raising a toddler or a teenager, this conversation offers refreshing ideas for cultivating capable, compassionate kids while creating a calmer family life.

In this episode we discuss:

Interdependence vs. individuality

Emotional regulation

Independence and responsibility

Japanese parenting philosophy

Meiwaku

Mindfulness in everyday life

Raising confident kids

Cooperation instead of control

ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host
Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1
bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every
Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting
Course and Teacher Training.

Find more podcasts, Hunter’s books, blog posts, free
resources, and more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MindfulMamaMentor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

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