2 Pastors and a Mic

In Episode 297 of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock have an honest conversation about how difficult it can be to figure out what we actually want—and how much of our desires may have been shaped by culture, family, church, other people’s expectations, or an earlier version of ourselves.

They talk about things they spent years pursuing that don’t matter nearly as much anymore, wanting validation more than the thing itself, feeling guilty for admitting certain desires, and how our definition of success changes as we get older.

00:00 - Welcome to Episode 297
03:16 - A Difficult Conversation About What We Want
04:48 - What Did You Think Life Would Look Like By Now?
06:28 - How Our Wants Change
07:02 - What Did You Spend Years Wanting?
08:03 - Realizing You Wanted the Wrong Things
09:03 - How Our Definition of Success Changes
10:36 - Who Taught You What to Want?
11:05 - Desire, Expectation, and Validation
11:23 - Feeling Guilty for Wanting Something
13:19 - Money, Ministry, and Other People’s Expectations
14:25 - Why Did Jesus Ask People What They Wanted?
15:31 - Your Desires Matter
16:03 - Did Christianity Make Us Suspicious of Desire?
16:21 - What Do You Want at This Stage of Your Life?
18:02 - Three Questions to Discover What You Want
18:19 - I Want More… I Want Less…
19:58 - Closing Thoughts

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about destination addiction, contentment, and how easy it is to romanticize a life we aren’t actually living while missing the one happening right now.

They also talk about why joy can feel vulnerable, why we sometimes wait for something bad to happen when life is going well, and whether our hope for the future can actually keep us from participating in the present.

00:00 - Live From the Netherlands
01:40 - Why Do We Romanticize the Future?
02:13 - Life Will Be Better When…
04:40 - Destination Addiction
05:07 - The “When, Then” Trap
05:48 - Learning to Be Content Now
06:13 - Living in the Season You Once Prayed For
07:35 - Are You Postponing Happiness?
08:39 - Why Is It Hard to Express Joy?
09:40 - Does Joy Feel Vulnerable?
10:10 - Are We Protecting Ourselves From Joy?
12:10 - Joy Isn’t Circumstantial
13:37 - Can Hope Keep Us From Living?
15:51 - Enduring Life Instead of Enjoying It
16:23 - Learning How to Live Now
17:13 - What Season Do You Now Miss?
19:37 - What Will You Miss About Today?
20:08 - Recognizing a Season Before It’s Gone
22:44 - Catch Your “When”
23:25 - Name What’s Already Good Today
23:54 - Change Your “When” to “Now”
24:55 - You Are Loved Right Now

In Episode 295 of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about the difference between having a full life and living a hurried life—and whether busyness has become something we use to convince ourselves that what we’re doing matters.

They talk about why resting can make us feel guilty, what might come to the surface when everything gets quiet, and whether some of our exhaustion comes from constantly consuming instead of simply doing too much.

00:00 - Welcome to Episode 295
02:27 - Why Do We Always Say We’re Busy?
03:18 - When Busyness Becomes a Sign of Success
04:01 - Does Hurry Describe Your Soul?
05:40 - Can You Have a Full Calendar and Still Be Present?
06:13 - When Did Busy Become Important?
07:56 - Learning to Always Be Busy
09:15 - Why Do We Feel Guilty for Resting?
11:45 - Exhaustion Is Not a Spiritual Gift
12:00 - Does Busyness Make Us Feel Important?
12:18 - What Are We Avoiding by Staying Busy?
13:29 - Why Is It So Hard to Be Still?
14:00 - What Shows Up When Everything Gets Quiet?
15:10 - Are We Tired Because We Never Stop Consuming?
16:18 - Jesus Was Never in a Hurry
16:44 - Interruptions or Invitations?
17:32 - How Jesus Handled Interruptions
18:39 - What Does Love Require Here?
19:35 - What Are You Rushing Through?
19:52 - What Will You Wish You Had Slowed Down For?
20:43 - Be Where Your Feet Are
21:13 - Three Ways to Slow Down
23:09 - The Challenge: Do Absolutely Nothing

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about our tendency to fix people, give advice they never asked for, and become more invested in someone’s growth than they are.

They also talk about the deeper things that can be hiding underneath our desire to help. What happens when being needed becomes part of our identity? Are we actually offering something to another person, or are we trying to produce an outcome for them?

00:00 - Welcome to the Podcast
02:18 - Why Do We Feel Responsible for Fixing People?
03:52 - Why Is It So Hard to Watch People Struggle?
06:23 - Learning to Have Fewer Opinions
07:41 - When You Want to Coach Everyone
08:52 - What Happens When People Ignore Your Advice?
09:47 - What Do You Need From Me?
12:05 - Are You More Invested in Their Growth Than They Are?
13:40 - You Can’t Do the Work for Someone Else
15:45 - The Addiction to Being Needed
17:21 - Jesus Didn’t Chase People
19:24 - Jesus Didn’t Need to Be Needed
20:54 - Three Questions Before You Try to Help
21:39 - Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice
24:40 - This Week’s Challenge: Don’t Give Advice
25:10 - You Are Loved

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about where our fear of disappointing people comes from, why someone else’s disappointment can make us feel like we’ve done something wrong, and how much of our lives can be spent trying to manage other people’s reactions.

They also talk about the pressure many Christians carry to keep God from being disappointed in them—and why they believe it’s impossible to disappoint a God who already knows us completely.

00:00 - Welcome to the Podcast
01:39 - Why Is Disappointment So Hard?
02:44 - Who Are You Most Afraid of Disappointing?
03:04 - Expectancy vs. Expectation
05:25 - The Fear of Disappointing Ourselves
09:55 - What Happens When Someone Is Disappointed in You?
10:57 - Our Knee-Jerk Reactions to Disappointment
11:59 - Why Does Disappointment Feel Like We Did Something Wrong?
12:41 - Can We Disappoint God?
13:34 - What Happens When We’re Trying Not to Disappoint God?
13:49 - Are You Managing Everyone Else’s Reactions?
14:49 - How Fear of Disappointment Shapes Our Decisions
15:23 - Have You Changed a Decision to Avoid Disappointing Someone?
20:32 - How Many People Did Jesus Disappoint?
22:11 - Emotional Health Sometimes Disappoints People
22:21 - When Love Requires a Boundary
23:22 - Whose Disappointment Are You Trying to Avoid?
23:31 - What Is It Costing You?
23:46 - Let People Be Disappointed
25:01 - God Is Never Disappointed in You