Dharma Seed: dharma talks and meditation instruction

(Dhamma Stream Online Sessions) Two questions about worry: Q1 Anxiety creeps in and brings imbalance and I fail to immediately recognize the signs. What can you advise? Q2 [continues] When sitting I go through the worry of being a failed mother of a grown-up child. Aversion, and craving how I'd like to see things different. I'm trying to be with these thoughts rather than in them. The inner tyrant exaggerates the situation. How do I deal with the worry? 16:47 Q3 Please explain about, and in what way, consciousness is an element. I've heard Ajahn Sumedho say it is an element. 30:34 Q4 Relationships are complicated and painful. However as my "don't take your life personally" practice goes on, it seems people around me can present problematic relationships. Another one: I've been experiencing feelings of being a misfit. Your speaking about personality as a "me bag" was illuminating and a release from taking it personally. But if I withdraw from others, I meet my inner critic and get berated for not fitting in. So I'm lost either way! Q5 38:03 I've become aware of a familiar feeling of being trapped as a result of my work situation. I can feel it and yet feel at ease at the same time. This was deeply heartening. Q5 41:02 Sometimes when you are talking there's a sharp nasal blowing sound. What's happening? It's quite jolting to the nerves as I'm listening. Also I noticed that you often laugh when things are distressing? What is this about? I don't mean to be respectful.

(Dhamma Stream Online Sessions)

(Waldhaus am Laacher See) Erfahren wir etwas empfinden wir dieses als angenehm oder unangenehm. Das ist der erste Pfeil. Was geschieht, interpretieren wir als .persönlichen Erfolg oder Versagen. Wir verwickeln uns in Schuldzuweisungen, in Reaktionen und Gegenreaktionen. Wir stricken daraus unsere Persönlichkeit und die der anderen. Endlos entsteht weiteres Leid. Das können wir stoppen, indem wir den zweiten Pfeil unterlassen, den wir an uns selbst abschießen oder herausziehen. Der erste Pfeil dagegen ist unvermeidlich.

(Spirit Rock Meditation Center)

(Waldhaus am Laacher See) Gefühle gilt es tief zu verstehen durch unvoreingenommenes Betrachten. Auf der anderen Seite gilt es zu erkennen, welche Emotionen und Geisteszustände zu einer Verwicklung in Leid führen und welche nicht. Daraus ergibt sich, welche wir fördern wollen und welche nicht.